Introducing a one-of-a-kind devotional tailored for the unique needs of divorcing or separated Christians.
No matter how long it has been since you separated, if you are a Christian and you are experiencing ongoing conflict with your child’s other parent this devotional is for you. If you’re tired of the endless cycle of conflict, blaming, threats, insults, and anxiety, get ready for some changes. The key to letting go is anchoring yourself to God’s commandments and promises while protecting your child from parental conflict. In addition, you must also recognize your own contribution to the conflict, focusing on transforming yourself rather than on your coparent.
The format of this devotional includes selected scripture, a lesson, a prayer, plus a section for you to reflect upon how the lesson applies to your personal situation. If you can commit to an open mind and you are truly ready to give up the bitterness, jealousy, anger, pride, and anxiety.
Transform yourself from a frustrated coparent to a peaceful one by keeping your behaviors aligned with your faith.
Four transformational
steps in each chapter
1.
Scripture.
A carefully chosen passage from the bible that will ground you in your faith.
2.
Lesson.
An exploration of the topic for you to apply to your situation and growth.
3.
Reflection.
An opportunity to think about what you have just learned in this chapter.
4.
Prayer.
A prayer from the heart to focus you on your relationship with God.
SUSAN BOYAN
Teacher, psychotherapist, parenting coordinator, author, trainer, mother, grandmother and woman of faith.
Over the last few decades of working with conflicted Christian coparents, I have encouraged parents to use their love for their children to change their own destructive behaviors. Unfortunately, this worked for only a portion of the conflicted parents. Over time, I discovered that incorporating faith into treatment has been the most effective intervention for change. I recognized many years ago the need for Christian coparents to have scripture-based skills to assist them in making personal changes. As someone who is passionate about improving the lives of families affected by divorce, and as a person of faith, this project has been on my heart for a very long time. As the proverb goes, “necessity is the mother of invention.”
My background and degrees are in special education, rehabilitation counseling, community counseling and marriage and family therapy. Furthermore, I have been writing and training on divorce related topics since 1993. I have authored professional articles on high-conflict divorce and co-authored seven books for conflicted divorced parents, as well as produced a psycho-educational coparenting video. I have also done TV interviews and frequently testify as an expert in the field of high-conflict divorce, parental alienation and parenting coordination.
Divorce Related products and blogs may be found on my website at www.cooperativeparenting.com
Parenting Coordination Training opportunities may be found at www.cooperativeparentinginstitute.com
Table of Contents
- Chapter 1: Do Not Be Quick to Judge
- Chapter 2: Demonstrate Random Acts of Kindness
- Chapter 3: Trust in God’s Promises
- Chapter 4: Calm Your Thoughts
- Chapter 5: Manage Your Anger
- Chapter 6: Avoid Three Responses
- Chapter 7: Obey God’s Commandments
- Chapter 8: Speak to the Impact versus Motive
- Chapter 9: Avoid Coparent Competition
- Chapter 10: Shield Your Child
- Chapter 11: Identify Anger Triggers
- Chapter 12: Love Your Enemies
- Chapter 13: Be Intentional
- Chapter 14: Develop Patience
- Chapter 15: Detach from Fear
- Chapter 16: Seek a Healthy Balance
- Chapter 17: Capture and Disarm
- Chapter 18: Purs˙ue God’s Peace
- Chapter 19: Do It Anyway
- Chapter 20: Accept the Unacceptable
- Chapter 21: Seek to Understand
- Chapter 22: Take Responsibility
- Chapter 23: Know When to Withdraw
- Chapter 24: Observe Rather than Judge
- Chapter 25: Address Resentment
- Chapter 26: Practice Radical Acceptance
- Chapter 27: Make Requests
- Chapter 28: Pray for Your Coparent
- Chapter 29: Say Less
- Chapter 30: Learn to Reframe
- Chapter 31: Be Content
- Chapter 32: Be a Joyful Giver
- Chapter 33: Avoid Creating Triangles
- Chapter 34: Be Respectful
- Chapter 35: Build Bridges
- Chapter 36: Become Self-Aware
- Chapter 37: Pay Attention to What You’re Teaching
- Chapter 38: Recognize We Are One in God
- Chapter 39: Prepare and Practice
- Chapter 40: Stop Micromanaging
- hapter 41: Plan a Positive Future
- Chapter 42: Take Refuge in the Lord
- Chapter 43: Don’t Get Stuck
- Chapter 44: Stop Defending
- Chapter 45: Take a Good Look in the Mirror
- Chapter 46: Guard Your Heart
- Chapter 47: Recognize Cost of an Unforgiving Mind
- Chapter 48: Be the Adult
- Chapter 49: Accept God’s Unconditional Love
- Chapter 50: Eliminate Exaggerated Thinking
- Chapter 51: Speak to the King Not the Fool
- Chapter 52: Defusing Tips .
- Chapter 53: Walk in God’s Light
- Chapter 54: Take Custody of Yourself
- Chapter 55: Become Nonreactive
- Chapter 56: Set Clear Boundaries
- Chapter 57: Recognize Their Wounded Self
- Chapter 58: Develop Frustration Tolerance
- Chapter 59: Apologize When Appropriate
- Chapter 60: Ask Yourself Three Questions
- Chapter 61: Sacrifice in the Name of Love
- Chapter 62: Live in Integrity
- Chapter 63: Meet the Challenge
- Chapter 64: Avoid Hypocrisy
- Chapter 65: Expectations Breed Resentment
- Chapter 66: Be Humble and Receptive to Wisdom
- Chapter 67: Find Peace through Detaching
- Chapter 68: Rest by the Still Waters
- Chapter 69: Leave Room for God
- Chapter 70: Step Back
- Chapter 71: Take a Leap of Faith
- Chapter 72: Accept Difficult People
- Chapter 73: Write Your Next Chapter
- Chapter 74: Travel Back in Time to Find Compassion
- Chapter 75: Live in Gratitude
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