Transforming Coparent Conflict
By Transforming Yourself
But God commendeth his love towards us, in that, while we were sinners, Christ died for us. Roman 5:8 Duality exists within everyone on the planet. It is our wounded self that steers us away from our higher selves and does damage to self and others. Likewise, your co-parent has a wounded … Read more
Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you. Eph 4:32 NIV It has been said that forgiving an offender means letting go of the wish for bad things to happen to them while praying for your enemy is a wish for good things to happen … Read more
….is there no King in thee? Micah 4:9 CEV As a parent, you certainly do not want to shame your child when you discipline then. If you speak to the fool in your child, the fool will stand up. If you speak to the King in your child, the King will stand up. … Read more
Most of us are familiar with the story of King Solomon and the two women both claiming the infant was her child. He skillfully determined that the real mother would be willing to make a sacrifice. So King Solomon in his wisdom, ordered the guard to cut the infant in half. Of course the mother … Read more
But they did not listen or pay attention; instead, they followed the stubborn inclinations of their evil hearts. Jeremiah 7:24 No one likes to be told what to do. As a result, it is wise to watch your word choice to avoid using demanding communication. Notice the subtle difference in this example: “You … Read more
To fear the Lord is to hate evil; I hate pride and arrogance, evil behavior and perverse speech. Proverbs 8:13 According to Dr. John Gottman’s theory on couple’s communication, he observed patterns of communication that stand out in couples who are at risk of divorce. The first of the three types is the critical … Read more
(The Lord) causes his sun to rise on the evil and the good, and sends rain on the righteous and the unrighteous. Matthew 5:45 Radical acceptance is about accepting life on life’s own terms and not resisting what you cannot or choose not to change. It allows you to become content in the moment by … Read more
For all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God. Roman 3:23 ESV Drama may occur in your life, especially around you and your co-parent. Yet the most powerful warfare occurs within us. The truth is we are all made up of a duality of darkness and light. A primal split occurs … Read more
Trust in God’s promises Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding. Proverb 3:5 The Lord has been charged with the care and keeping of you just as a shepherd is charged to care for his sheep. Sheep need guidance and protection. No matter what may happen, … Read more
But the fruit of the spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. Gal 5:22 It may seem next to impossible to consider demonstrating kindness towards your co-parent when you have so much animosity towards them. Make a list of small kindnesses you could do, once in a blue moon and … Read more