Transforming Coparent Conflict
By Transforming Yourself
The Lord is with me; I will not be afraid. What can mere mortals do to me? Psalm 118:6 When you are afraid, your thoughts will determine how anxious you become and how long you take to calm down. Your thoughts will either fuel negative emotions like fear and anger or they will soothe … Read more
But I tell you, do not resist an evil person. If anyone slaps you on the right check, turn to them the other cheek also. Matthew 5:39 NIV Jesus teaches about diffusing conflict by being non-reactive rather than letting conflict escalate. He commands we stop the cycle by a willingness to suffer wrong. … Read more
God blesses those people who make peace. They will be called his children. Matthew 5:9 God loves the peacemakers. We are called to love one and other and not create conflict. In an attempt to make peace, imagine building a bridge to get to your coparent’s side. First step is you must be committed to … Read more
Learning self control so that you do not respond quickly.
….is there no King in thee? Micah 4:9 CEV As a parent, you certainly do not want to shame your child when you discipline then. If you speak to the fool in your child, the fool will stand up. If you speak to the King in your child, the King will stand up. … Read more
Do not deceive yourselves. If any of you think you are wise by the standards of this age, you should become “fools” so that you may become wise. 1 Corinthians 3:18 Sure, you have a long laundry list of complaints about your co-parent. Do you really think your coparent is 100% responsible for the … Read more
Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you. Eph 4:32 NIV It has been said that forgiving an offender means letting go of the wish for bad things to happen to them while praying for your enemy is a wish for good things to happen … Read more
Capture and Disarm Take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ. 2 Corinthians 10:5 Emotions are a natural and instinctive state of mind that are created by our thought’s regarding the circumstances. Our thoughts trigger our emotions, then the emotions trigger us to action. It might appear that your co-parent triggered your … Read more
A hot-tempered man causes arguments but a patient man calms a quarrel Proverbs 15:18 If you truly desire to find peace with your coparent you will need to give up blame and unforgiveness. However, is hard to know what to replace our destructive responses with when attempting to defuse conflict. There is much written on … Read more
traveling back in time to increase your compassion and empathy for your coparent