Transforming Coparent Conflict
By Transforming Yourself
Capture and Disarm Take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ. 2 Corinthians 10:5 Emotions are a natural and instinctive state of mind that are created by our thought’s regarding the circumstances. Our thoughts trigger our emotions, then the emotions trigger us to action. It might appear that your co-parent triggered your … Read more
But God commendeth his love towards us, in that, while we were sinners, Christ died for us. Roman 5:8 Duality exists within everyone on the planet. It is our wounded self that steers us away from our higher selves and does damage to self and others. Likewise, your co-parent has a wounded … Read more
Don’t sin by letting anger control you… Psalm 4:4 When you are suffering in an unbearably unjust situation, your anger may turn to resentment. If you attach … Read more
….is there no King in thee? Micah 4:9 CEV As a parent, you certainly do not want to shame your child when you discipline then. If you speak to the fool in your child, the fool will stand up. If you speak to the King in your child, the King will stand up. … Read more
To fear the Lord is to hate evil; I hate pride and arrogance, evil behavior and perverse speech. Proverbs 8:13 According to Dr. John Gottman’s theory on couple’s communication, he observed patterns of communication that stand out in couples who are at risk of divorce. The first of the three types is the critical … Read more
(The Lord) causes his sun to rise on the evil and the good, and sends rain on the righteous and the unrighteous. Matthew 5:45 Radical acceptance is about accepting life on life’s own terms and not resisting what you cannot or choose not to change. It allows you to become content in the moment by … Read more
For all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God. Roman 3:23 ESV Drama may occur in your life, especially around you and your co-parent. Yet the most powerful warfare occurs within us. The truth is we are all made up of a duality of darkness and light. A primal split occurs … Read more
Trust in God’s promises Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding. Proverb 3:5 The Lord has been charged with the care and keeping of you just as a shepherd is charged to care for his sheep. Sheep need guidance and protection. No matter what may happen, … Read more
But the fruit of the spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. Gal 5:22 It may seem next to impossible to consider demonstrating kindness towards your co-parent when you have so much animosity towards them. Make a list of small kindnesses you could do, once in a blue moon and … Read more
Fools give full vent to their rage, but the wise bring calm to the end. Proverbs 29:11 Letting anger control you will result in poor impulse control. Without self-control, you are at risk of making choices that harm you or others. Learning how to manage your emotions is a skill you were supposed to learn … Read more