Transforming Coparent Conflict
By Transforming Yourself
Office Support Do not deceive yourselves. If any of you think you are wise by the standards of this age, you should become “fools” so that you may become wise. 1 Corinthians 3:18 Sure, you have a long laundry list of complaints about your co-parent. Do you really think your coparent is 100% responsible for the … Read more
….is there no King in thee? Micah 4:9 CEV As a parent, you certainly do not want to shame your child when you discipline then. If you speak to the fool in your child, the fool will stand up. If you speak to the King in your child, the King will stand up. … Read more
But they did not listen or pay attention; instead, they followed the stubborn inclinations of their evil hearts. Jeremiah 7:24 No one likes to be told what to do. As a result, it is wise to watch your word choice to avoid using demanding communication. Notice the subtle difference in this example: “You … Read more
To fear the Lord is to hate evil; I hate pride and arrogance, evil behavior and perverse speech. Proverbs 8:13 According to Dr. John Gottman’s theory on couple’s communication, he observed patterns of communication that stand out in couples who are at risk of divorce. The first of the three types is the critical … Read more
(The Lord) causes his sun to rise on the evil and the good, and sends rain on the righteous and the unrighteous. Matthew 5:45 Radical acceptance is about accepting life on life’s own terms and not resisting what you cannot or choose not to change. It allows you to become content in the moment by … Read more
If you love those who love you, what credit is that to you? Even sinners love those who love them. Luke 6:32 God commands us to love one another. He also commands us to forgive. For many of us, love and forgiveness might depend upon the degree of harm, the sense of remorse and the degree … Read more
Knowing your anger triggers as a way to help you change your responses to coparent conflict.
traveling back in time to increase your compassion and empathy for your coparent
A hot-tempered man causes arguments but a patient man calms a quarrel Proverbs 15:18 If you truly desire to find peace with your coparent you will need to give up blame and unforgiveness. However, is hard to know what to replace our destructive responses with when attempting to defuse conflict. There is much written on … Read more
Most of us are familiar with the story of King Solomon and the two women both claiming the infant was her child. He skillfully determined that the real mother would be willing to make a sacrifice. So King Solomon in his wisdom, ordered the guard to cut the infant in half. Of course the mother … Read more